I keep thinking the guy I married would insist I carry on and be there for the girls.
I like this. And I think it says a lot about how deep his crisis is, that he has abandoned his girls so completely.
One of my kids has recently cut off contact with his dad after a spat (during the spat the ex decided to start bad mouthing me, which did not go over well at all with my son and his girlfriend.) I try to keep a balance between understanding their reason for cutting contact, and discussing how completely cutting someone out is a big burden on YOU that may not be worth it (versus carrying on a polite but distant relationship). Funny thing is, this is the same discussion I had with my ex early in our marriage, about him contacting his WAW mother who he had cut out of his life (they reconciled and now have a good relationship.)
I would really like my kids to see the movie Concussion, as I honestly believe some (definitely not all) of my ex's behavior can be attributed to the 6 concussions he had during his 40's. I would hope it could give them a kinder view of their father.
