Devastated after finding hope in the DB process

[mvgfwd2]

Yes, we have reconciled and everything is fine now. It took awhile for my W to stop lying about what happened with her A but she finally gave up when more evidence surfaced. Yours will lie too, count on it. And she may use every manipulative method she has to make you feel content with her latest lie, sex, cuddling, anything and everything.

Sandi, and me too, differ with some aspects of DBing. Getting your W out of the fog of the A is critical before any DBing to repair the marriage can work in my opinion. That is why I subscribe to Sandi's rules on dealing with a WW. I believe Sandi was a WW herself and she will tell you being nice to bring a WW back to the M does nothing but push them farther away. It makes you appear weak and begging for scraps. Women are attracted to strong and confident men. I guess you will have to decide which path you think will work best for your situation.