WW, My Addiction, Patience is HARD

[JGuy]

I'm so sorry to hear about the downward spiraling of your sitch, trumpet. If you can contain your own anger and continue to behave respectfully toward your W (as it sounds like you have), then I think you will come out of this on higher moral ground, and you will at least have yourself; your own self-respect.

My sitch is downward spiraling too, but my W and I are much more cordial. She is saying it's over, but she is confused, still loves me, full of regret, and isn't outwardly hateful toward me. However, all it takes is the slightest anger from me and she flips into a very defensive and selfish place. I think it's true what Sandi says about how a WW's heart is a a very cold, dark place. When there's an OM in the picture, it is just so easy and tempting to blame all the M problems on the LBH. It has helped me to remember this and to trust that my W is just a good person who is badly confused and making very bad choices, learning a very hard lesson, the hardest possible way. Indeed, letting go is the only viable option at this point.

You and I continue to be in sync, trumpet... I hold you in my thoughts. You are a great man and nobody can take that away from you. Hang in there bro!