W is going to keep coming at me to how we will 'move forward' out of the present limbo of inhouse separation which W feels is unbearable after her discovering me snooping yesterday.
Whether my snooping was justified or not is irrelevant to her.
To quote her : She cant trust me, feels every conversation will be written down, cant bear the tension, is having a nervous breakdown etc etc.
By the way it would probably taken 3-4 weeks before I could move out even if I started looking today.
So what do I want. I dont want to move out, and she cant make me but she might file for a D straight away.
I want to say to her no more R talk until after her fathers funeral in 10 days - then we will talk.
I need a plan, I need options.
I will be in the house for 3 or more weeks minimum - so how do I regain her trust/confidence after the snooping??
Anyone who has read my thread will know that I have done little wrong except snoop (justified by her secretiveness - marriage can have privacy but not secrets) and the big fight we had on her birthday.
I've explained most of my sitch to an old friend today and he agrees - its her [censored] not mine.
Last edited by isittoolate; 01/04/1604:33 PM.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
