Looking forward to the new year

[kyrie]

Julie, I'm by no means an expert. I recently read "The Surrendered Wife" and a few others which support the idea that, when men feel disrespected (whether you intend it or not!!), they react in the ways our H's have. Moreso, I've learned that they love in ways we have a hard time understanding, yet, if we look back objectively, they really have shown love. It's the same both ways: we feel we've shown ENORMOUS love and they have shown nearly none or none at all. Yet, we both make the same accusations. How can this be? He's all wrong & we're all right?
No - we have expectations that get in the way.
For my part, I'm trying to see love even in the darkest hours and be grateful for even the smallest things. It's the hardest thing in the world when there's so much pain in the way. It becomes nearly impossible to see, but see it we must or nothing changes.