Hey PP, your adventure is beginning soon right? Sometime this month I thought anyway if not soon. Happy that you're able to do this, it sounds amazing. Just imagine how much your life could change during the next. Who knows who/where you will be this time in 2017, goodluck.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
PP, when you go can you say good-bye. Maybe a little house party here, where everybody hangs in the kitchen.
Joking, but kinda not. It's purely selfish, I don't do well with people I have become attached to just disappearing. You understand my abandonment issues Lol.
It would be nice to know not to expect to see your name popping up.
Happy New Year, PP! I really enjoyed your xmas "story" and I wish you the best adventures for 2016. Please pop in every now and then to give us updates!
Thanks for the messages, I hadn't checked my own thread in a bit since things are kind of slow on my side of the street. I texted my W a short video of Woofie on NYE and wished her well, she replied with the same and that was that. No further contact between us although she has asked that we have the D paperwork all signed and sorted out by the time I leave at the end of the month.
I'm still going to be popping in now and again when I can, too many people here have been my lifeline to just pull up and head out without saying anything or catching up on threads. After being her for 8 months I feel like an old timer and still wonder about so many of the folks that joined when I did - Bob, Dif, HeavyD. Good people fighting for their M's.
My old business is officially done and I'm working some great new stuff, doing a lot of blogging and garnering social media interest in my little trip. It's still wild to me to realize that doing what I'm doing now is what I always wanted to do and on that level I'm infinitely happier than I've ever been in my life. I truly do feel blessed that I get to follow my calling, despite the pain and agony of last year. To think this time last year BD hadn't even happened and I was getting fattened up by my WAW for the kill!
I know that 2016 is going to bring fresh people to this board, people who's lives have been ripped out from under them. My heart breaks reading their threads and remembering the panic, the anxiety, and the emotional brutality of what they're going through. So much awfulness.
My desire is that 2016 also brings peace to so many of us that have worked the DB path, that have dived in headfirst to our own psychologies, our issues, and our deficiencies. In addition to shining the spotlight on our strengths, our talents, and the graces that we carry with us. There are so many good people on here, fighting a fight that is fueled by pain and has no guarantee of anything but self knowledge. It's humbling to witness.
Big hug to all,
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
Thank you Rd, I am who I am due to a lot of caring people's input. I've followed a lot of strong men on this forum, men who have to balance business, WW, children and more and have been in awe at the strength you men possess.
I appreciate all that I've learned here and everyone who has contributed to it. Here's to a brilliant 2016 for you and your family as well my friend.
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
PP, you have been a pillar of strength and kindness. You have shown us all how to be truly reflective of our process and how to be compassionate to ourselves while being critical judges of how we can become the next better versions of us.
Thank you so much for your time and effort helping me out, and as I too miss Bob, Heavy D, Matt, Teach, and others, please do drop in sometimes and update us. We will truly miss you.
HUGS
E
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
Hi Mona and E! Thank you both for your kind words and guidance, I'm even more grateful today for this board than ever. Love you all!
In about 3 weeks I leave my home and community for a year so I'm a bit on edge and dealing with goodbyes and the reality of such a big decision. Many mixed feelings. As my WAW has told me she wants the D all wrapped up before I leave, I also know that in addition to passing Woofie off to her, I'll have to sign papers and make all of this as official as it can be.
Last night I got a call from my STBXW and I knew it was time. Time to plan the last meeting with the paperwork. I had put it in my mind that finalizing the D was no more to her than an item to cross off of her to do list. Being that I had gotten all overly emotional over getting a goodbye hug from my dentist and all of his staff earlier in the day, I let the call go to VM. I have a rule of not taking calls or listening to VM's with the potential to upset me if it's past 5pm as it messes with my sleep.
This morning I listened to the message and truthfully DB'ers, braced myself even though I had told myself it was coming, on some level I'm looking forward to moving on and someday finding an R with a woman who thinks I'm worth fighting for, as well as knowing that I don't want to carry my M on my trip with me.
For the second time in a row my STBXW said she just called to check on Woofie, to ask how my first week of the year had gone and to "holla" at me. Somehow the brilliant, spiritually steeped woman I fell in love with leaves me VM's now like an urban youth.
I haven't called back and am not sure I will as the cost to me is still seemingly higher than the cost is to her when we talk. I also feel like I'm now firmly in the BFF role and don't want to be there. Truly I'm not sure how to respond other than to shoot her a TM back saying that Woofie is grand, and I'm busy as can be.
Any thoughts? This whole dropping the rope thing sure does seem to be working. Two phone calls in two weeks from her.
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
Hey PP, Happy to see you are doing so well and you are! You're doing great!
I think a proper response should be to the point and not too friendly. "Woofie is grand. It's been a super busy week for me. Thanks for asking.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
