Finally! 2015 is coming to an end. :-)

[Painter]

Believe me, I understand how you can get all fired up just putting it down in words.

Ancaire, I'm very happy you decided to not send this, but keep writing for yourself and us - it is helpful to sort out how we feel, and vent.

This is what's Ls are for, to help us in situations where we are just too emotionally upset to deal with things in a rational and businesslike manner.

As it was also said, actions speak louder than words. Since you are concerned about volatility, I would perhaps let H know with a sentence or two that 'My L is going to send you and your L some suggestions to review, just so you know.' If he asks for details, you can tell him you're not sure because you haven't seen what your L suggests yet. Hide behind your L, let her protect you. It is better that H's anger is directed towards your L than towards you.