I have seen couples physically separate and then later reconcile the MR, but I can't remember anyone on the board who stayed under the same roof.....saying they were S..........and then reconciling. Maybe there was and I just can't remember it. I think being S under the same roof is bad. It is a slow, tortuous death. every time the WW lays eyes on the H, she just detests him more. I say, get out of her way and let her learn reality on her own. I garantee you, I would not stick around anyone who did not love me, hoping they would change their mind. Seems to me a person would lose most of their dignity by subjecting themselves to that daily environment. However, that is just my own opinion. I think there is more hope if the couple goes to separate housing, and she goes through the WW sh't faster.
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We never explicitly said we were separating, but that is what we tacitly are right now - separated, under the same roof. I am stuck in the home by necessity until we can work out custody and parenting time. It sets a terrible example for the children to see their parents with almost zero communication. If anything, it is driving us further apart. I still try to be the best dad that I can be, but it is taking a huge toll on me. Even worse, it further enhances my STBXWs cake-eating. She can continue to maintain her reputation in the community as the dutiful mother and homemaker, and not experience any consequences of her wayward relationship. It is bad bad bad.
