joss, You can't rescue him. He's got to do this himself. If he's having chest pains and they get bad enough, he'll take himself off to the doctor's. I don't want to sound cold, but some of the pressure that he's experiencing is brought on by his actions. Depression is also in play here and yes, it can create a lot of issues w/the health of the individual experiencing it.
Yes, it's dreadful to watch them spiral out of control and burn themselves out mentally, physically, emotionally and financially, but it has to be done in order for them to face the consequences of their actions. He needs to figure things out for himself.
It's nice that you want to help him out in some fashion financially, but you are going to have to watch out for yourself and your son. Right now, it's very important that you take care of you and your child and that means ensuring that you have enough money to do so.
Again, it's nice that you want to help your runaway, but he's got to figure things out for himself. You didn't break him, therefore you can't fix him nor be his "mom". He's got to do this on his own.
When in doubt, do nothing. I'm sorry that you have to watch his spiraling, but please, do not allow him to drag you down into the rabbit hole w/him. Keep the focus on you and your child.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
