I think many men feel that they courted a woman, then married her, and that should prove their love once and for all. My H will say he is simple to please, but he expects me to want to fulfill his needs without doing anything to fulfill mine. He feels that because he is attracted to me on sight, I should be to him. I feel that he puts the cart before the horse in how things should happen. And I feel that he can get what he wants so easily, if he would only invest a little effort in courting me on an ongoing basis. I don't think he feels he should have to. That is frustrating, because I see his pride and ego get in the way of his and our happiness.
And from everything I read, this is exceedingly common. Which is so sad!
You know what, Painter? This is golden. It is common, and it is sad. Bridging all the past hurts is truly a challenge, but I'm in the camp that thinks it is worth it.
