Inpain, I'm only about 6 weeks longer into this than you, but I PROMISE you the pain will eventually start to subside. Then it will come back, and then decrease again. It's a process you can't rush or cheat your way out of.
I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. It's not fair to have someone else control so much of your life. I didn't have kids to raise them alone either.
Hi Gmum, thank you so much for your post, I feel so alone and contact on here helps me to feel less alone. Your point about rushing or cheating my way out of the pain is a good one and is exactly what it feels like I want to do. It is good to hear that it subsides, even if it does return. It doesn't help that I feel so lost about what I'm doing or what to do. I have done NC, I've gone out when he's come over to see the kids, I've tried being cheery and welcoming and staying around when he comes over to see them. The end result seems to be the same either way. Which, when I re read DR for the millionth time, makes me think I am going down cheese less tunnels and should do something but different...but what?
