Then don't do this one. Have you got something else you like doing but that is not regular? You need to try/ find something new to do. I know it's hard, taking the first step is always the hardest, once you done it, there is no stopping!
Give it just 5 minutes to start with, then 10 the next day, and carry on. You'll succeed as you are a smart, strong and loveable humain being. Don't ever forget this Inpain.
Hmmm...don't think I'm any of those things right now, and I know I need to change that way of thinking, but it is so hard when the person who promised to love you forever, no matter what, doesn' think you're loveable anymore.
But that's just it, isn't it? Changing the way we think? Everything about DB is realizing that the way we think is not working for us. That we need to 180 and do the opposite.
To feel unlovable because we have given everything, including power over our own feelings about ourselves,to another person DID NOT make our relationships WORK. So now we need to work on us, and do the OPPOSITE of what we feel is right. Stop doing the same old same old. I'm still learning this, but it is starting to make sense. If I could just stop fighting it.
Yes Ciluzen, it is so, so hard. I am struggling with it so much. I cannot seem to make myself accept that H doesn't love me anymore. I cannot believe it is over and that my future involves being a single parent and having to not see my kids every day so that they can be with their Dad. My heart is breaking every which way and I feel like I'm getting worse rather than better. Everyone says this pain will end but I don't see how it ever does.
