WAW - Detaching is the Hardest Thing

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1. You had an R talk. It takes two to have a talk. If she brings it up you can either validate, or you can leave.

2. You didn't validate. She told you what she wanted. You didn't validate, but instead disagreed, leading to:

3. Pursuing. Instead of validating, you restated what you wanted.

Hi Zeus

She initiated the R talk, I said I didn't want to talk. She said we needed to talk sometime, and the events of the day had brought things to a head.

NB The previous 5 minutes she had led up to it by saying what a good man and father I was, and how I was the second most important man in all of her life (after her father) and she would always want the best for me. - soft soap for the R talk I know.

I guess my choice at the point was to walk away. But the convo started and W stated she wanted a separation and after 2 years ( the legal time in the UK for no fault divorce) , a divorce.

At this point I couldn't validate, validating is agreeing? So I could only state my view or walk away without answering?

What choice did I have?

Edit: our posts crossed so things are a little clearer now. Thanks again Zeus