Hi Mleigh - as I have said before, I think one of the things that makes things so hard in your sitch is that your h is a fairly nice MLCer. He clearly wants to take care of things at your home and he is at times thoughtful towards people.
It is probably best not to make a decision for the sake of making a decision. I too have moments of wanting resolution--ANY resolution to this all. That is anxiety about the future.
Go see the movie Joy. Man, does that main character get knocked in the teeth--a lot. There is one scene; you can see she's had it. She cuts her hair and she walks out with aviator sunglasses and a leather jacket. Her body language, her demeanor, everything says: ENOUGH!
When we feel like that we'll have our answer. See the movie and you'll see that's what we're waiting on.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
