Its complicated this intimacy thing Fogg. I appreciate the struggle. Where I begin and end with my partner is something I am also nutting out. We're all broken is what I am learning, some of us are just better accepting it in themselves and others. All I can change is my relationship with intimacy and possibly be a guide for spouse in them feeling open and comfortable in exploring their own.
Ultimately I think intimacy this is the crux of any relationship, there is something in the other person that both feels familiar but different. Recognising oneself in the other and attempting to bring the matching pieces together. But intimacy is also recognising that no other person can match you completely, and you have to come to know where the differences are a love and accept them regardless. It is the ultimate experience of being known and being together but separate.
Fogg I really don't know, I have my training wheels on for this one.
We can only keep turning up. Love seeing you here Fogg, you are great man.