Jelly, I'd have to think about that more regarding my own issues, seems to be some conflicting thoughts of mine that need to be incorporated better. At the very least the way I phrased it is misleading as its not as black and white as saying "nothing to do with us".
I guess what I was getting at is the actions of other people are about them and not us so we shouldn't take it personally. I still basically agree with that but I can see how our actions, picking them as a partner, can give insight into our own issues because we chose people that are broken in the same way we are.
It's all perspective I guess. S's problems are S's and not mine, and vice-versa. Just becaue we might both have the same problem doesn't make the other responsible or the cause of it. The issue is, like you hinted toward, am I looking at her and seeing my own issue reflected(something I could work on and change) or her issue (that has nothing to do it me but I attribute to something wrong with me).
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
