It's important that you have the termite inspection before those little creatures create some major damage that will require repairs. Talk to several pest control companies before you opt to have it done. If you are already under a yearly contract, then talk to them. My home was treated when it was built 30 years ago and I just recently had it done again and I didn't have any problems w/my food or w/my two cats. It is safer than it was years ago. Now, if they say you need your house tented to do it, then yes, you, your son and pets will need to relocate for a day or so. Don't delay this one job...it has to be done before any additional damage is done and if you ever do sell, it's important that you can show you've had this done periodically, preferably on an annual basis.
I guess your h still considers your house the home base and where your son primarily lives. He doesn't want all of your son's gifts at his house because he knows that son will most likely want them at your house. I can see his point on this move.
The holidays have brought a lot of things back to the forefront for you. You and your son have been living separate lives from your h and you don't want to see this happen for another year. Maybe the man upstairs is trying to send you a reminder that your h is still very much a part of your life and not to make any decisions about what may or may not happen in the next 12 months.
To answer your questions about the MLCers starting the D and not finishing it. My xh started the D and dragged it out for 2 1/2 years. He didn't provide the interrogatory responses as requested by his own lawyer, he didn't do any of the grunt work on the divorce at all. The only things that he ever complained about was his missing mail and a plastic Easter Egg. We could still be sitting here not divorced because he found every excuse to have the lawyers working and responding back and forth to each other until one day I said enough. I advised me lawyer to just sit on it and do not respond to any additional petty BS that he pulled out of his sleeve. Sure enough, when he saw that I wasn't playing the game any longer, he finally "manned up" and filed. Do I regret doing what I did? Absolutely not. I've never regretted any of the moves I made to take care of the assets and ensure that I was financially set and would not be destroyed by his bad judgment. As far as I know, he is still stuck and hasn't matured one iota.
You will know when you've had enough.
Enjoy your day! It's back to the routine tomorrow!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
