Keep the main thing the main thing - YOU! The first M has set sail - it's gone. But if your XW thought she could fix you, she found out she couldn't. You fixed you - nice job! Keep it up. Those of us who have addictions or addictive personalities need to work on staying clean and sober daily.
It's not uncommon for people to get back together, but the new M wouldn't look like the old - you wouldn't want to be old Nate, or have a chance to slip back to old Nate, right?
In my current sitch., it took 2 months for me to realize getting the M back together was probably a year's worth of effort, if not more. And working on me was the best way to assure that happening, and not me trying to shortcut steps in the reconciliation. Right now, my W wants the D to start, and paperwork has started flowing between her and the laywers. All I can do now is be calm, confident, and get excited to see what changes are in store for me.
With your D being so fresh, what are your plans for dating? I'm reading up on D right now, and it looks like not dating for a year is the way to go. Just curoius what your thoughts are on it.
Keep on posting!
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)
