I'm feeling pretty good today. I must admit I am apprehensive about discussing boundaries with the w. The reason being is I do not want it to look like I am offering an ulitmatum. I am fearful that what I say will provide more ammunition for my w to resent me more than she does right now.
I want to state to her that my neighbour is no longer welcome in my house. I will no longer take part in any social interaction that includes him. This will be difficult due to his son and my son being team mates on hockey, soccer and school sports teams. When away at tournaments, the parents on the team frequently arrange group dinners at restaurants. I do not want to limit my son's chances for team bonding due to my boundaries. Any suggestions on this scenario would be helpful.
Another area I am trying to come to terms with is not telling the wife where I am going when I leave the house. I understand she has given up her right to always know my whereabouts , when she dropped the bomb. I also know it may make her suspicious that I may be involved with another woman. Inside, this would make me feel good if she showed concern, but also apprehensive about how she may react.
I have read the LBH with W W thread and it has given me more understanding of the best course of action to follow. I will follow the suggestions the best that I can as long as my children are not affected my my actions .
Don't count the days, make the days count. Mohammad Ali
