A clear, spelled out list would be helpful. We lack communication. It has been a major issue.
how do I initiate for a list at this point? Our contact is limited to brief "how are the kids" and "how are you." He asked 1 x when we were at court if I looked into retrovaille and I had said I would call. And then I never discussed it with him. I thought he should follow up and should ask me about it. So yes, it's childish but he left me and I feel if he wants this to work he will make effort and he has not. I told him that his timing for asking for reconciliation was suspicious (right after I filed for child support) and he said "I know you do"
Although being the one to bring things up will get things rolling in 1 direction or the other. He might not even want to work on reconciliation. But if I ask him about it, it demonstrates my level of investment.
After family court, I took Zues advice and validated how awful it must have felt for him etc. and said I was sorry it had to come to this. He responded with short statements of I am sorry too. No more then 6 word sentences. And then nothing was brought up other then handling kids.
Unfortunately it appears that you are the adult in this situation. He's acting like an idiot man-child. That will place the burden on you to drive this process. If this was the old days you could just beat him upside the head with a purse or rolling pin and tell him to cut the crap. Today we over complicate things but just in case, keep a big purse or rolling pin handy. ;-)
