Looking forward to the new year

[JulieH]

His indifference and stonewalling has been extremely hurtful. I will admit that I too think about combating this hurt with OP. at least I would know in my heart that I did something equally hurtful and painful. It would not be infidelity because he already left. In a way I am empathising with all those unfaithful spouses that I am very much opposed to.

I do not want to be that person because I know it is an impulsive behavior and long term will devalue me. So i need to get out of this mindset and will. Him reaching out in any way would mean a lot.

I give all of you on here who know their spouses were unfaithful a lot of credit for remaining loyal. I admit you guys are more mature and honorable then me. If I knew my husband was with other woman I am sure I would not have been able to remain committed.