Hi Focus, I think you may want to go a little further with your response and suggest how he can pick things up. I can understand you don't want him to have a key and unsupervised access to your home, but there are other options.

Do you want to be there? If so, let him know that he can come when you are there and give him some options for times.

If you don't want to be there, perhaps a trusted person could let him in on your behalf and be present during the collection of any stuff?

Or, perhaps if he were to let you know what he needs, you could put it together and arrange to get it to him?

Maybe draft your response on one of the above bases and post again for DBers to comment?

Take care xx

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