other thing I am wondering about at the moment, is limited contact working against me? I make no effort and neither does he.
Or perhaps this is just telling me what I don't want to hear... He really is not invested. His actions are stating the obvious, so I should just move on so that i can meet someone I can have a healthy relationship with.
I feel like saying something to get a reaction. Bringing up that he is playing mind games by telling me he wants reconciliation. Questioning directly why he tried so hard to get me back to work full time and cited this as excuse for not leaving families house. Let him know I see the discrepancy...
If I was advising someone else I would tell them don't do anything to show that you want his attention cause that shows you care.
He did wish me a happy New Years, but that was later last evening. I was getting upset that he said nothing but made sure I did not initiate. Then again if I did not have kids, would he?
I'm sorry. I'm rambling again. Emotional and down today.
Just saying he wants reconciliation is worthless. He has to show you. You both have to list out what reconciliation looks like. Enumerate the steps involved like a checklist and work on them. Anyone can throw out words. Only actions matter.
Tell him that you'll consider reconciliation but that you two have to document what that really means and you both have to stick to it. If he can't live up to that like a good man then you haul him into divorce court and get on with your life.
Definitely continue to do GAL and detach during this limbo. That creates a no-lose situation for you. You'll either end up reconciling if he starts acting like a man and not an idiot man-child or he won't live up to the rules of reconciliation, you'll toss him in the trash heap and move on with the great new you that you've been working on.
Following the GAL, detachment rules will truly create a no-lose situation for you.
