Devastated after finding hope in the DB process

[LiM]

In no way, shape or form is it ok with me for her A to continue so long as she is living in our house. I feel that if she wants to do that crap, then she needs to get the hell out. I think it would be absurd to allow someone to continue with this type of behavior once you know about it. However, in Cristy's reply above, she suggested that I NOT confront my W about it and not to kick her out. My goal here is to see if our M can be salvaged so I don't want to take any steps that would sabotage that. I don't understand why Cristy suggested that I not confront her and that is what I would like to understand.

I have been implementing the LRT this week and I THINK I have seen a couple of positive reactions. If its working, I'm willing to suck it up and silently bear the pain of her A and deal with it later during counseling if she will begin to mend the pieces with me.

You say that your W's affair ended immediately. Has your M since reconciled? Is it happy and healthy?

I have spent the day reading all the posts related to WW's and it has been helpful.