Updated/still thinking about next steps

[kyrie]

JB, your expertise is invaluable - I wish you could share it!
Now he is sending me texts that he feels condemned by me. I acknowledged that he felt that way but that I don't condemn him. He txtd back that I do condemn him and dismiss him. Ugh. I must be terrible at validating. Or this is just too far gone. If I don't respond at all he gets mad too.
Right now he just arrived in Oregon for serving at the mission church tomorrow. Last time he went, he visited a local nudie bar (I saw his travel credit card statement).
What do you mean about complete honesty with myself? I know I have contributed and made many, many errors, bad habits, etc.
I haven't brought up anything about the teen thing (again he doesn't know how much I know). Nor have I brought up the bar. I just found out about both of those the day that I first posted again, a few days ago.

Appropriate...shoot, everything I've typed here isn't appropriate. But it's here.