Your husband is spewing addiction script. It sounds like he's a controlling husband, to be frank. And his control has had to get stronger on everything around his life, since he can't control the porn addiction - the sin is too great. By controlling everything else within his grasp, he's trying to maintain order.
A huge weapon? He gave you half-truths, and that was enough for him to realize you could blow his world up. He's very scared right now. And I'm a bit worried about you, Kyrie.
My gut says you need to talk to another pastor about this, and do an intervention. But I'm no therapist, and can't even follow my own advise sometimes. Maybe you can find a counselor to confide in and get counsel?
He's completely controlling. OCD, the works. His admission was huge though. I did not think he would be able to even somewhat admit anything there. I think it was a test - too see if I'd go nuclear. An intervention would be seen as nuclear - and probably an end. But...I also wonder, like you, that it's a break down before a break-through. Dunno.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
