I wish I would have said "really?" and just left. Right now I'm having a hard time. I want her to know there is a path back to us but I feel if I tell her so she'll just take advantage of me again.
I am sure it's a very difficult time for you, and please don't think I am trying to make it harder. Let me just say that the way you are wanting her to know there is a path back......doesn't work real well with WW's. The mindset of a WW is that they have to feel they have lost the H. So, when you are hoping to show her there is still a possibility to R the M, you are actually defeating yourself. Why? B/c she doesn't feel that she's lost you. When she can demand to know about your private life, and you give her what she wants, it is like an insurance policy for her.
Over the years I have noticed how men can't seem to help themselves from thinking of their WW as though she was operating from a logical mind. However, I assure you that your WW does not think and feel like you seem to visualize. I wish she did.
Once she feels she has really lost you, then her feelings could shift quite rapidly, but as long as you assure her that she could have you back anytime she wanted, she will not be interested enough. And, that's a shame b/c if you portrayed the role of the WAH and dumped her........I think you would see almost immediate change. But, if you wait.......it will be too long.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
