Trumpet, much of what you're saying is spot on. My only concern is this:
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I think he needs another pastor to witness to him. It will need to be a 'coming to Jesus' moment, and it might rock his world, or put him on a deeper path for a while.
DBing truly isn't about changing the other person.
If her H was unwilling to do this, what then? Is there no way to have a functional and meaningful marriage without him following this path? Should she file for D if he doesn't immediately agree this is an addiction responsible for the problems in the M and agree not to view porn again?
When you ask the follow up questions you'll see why DB truly is about working on ourselves.
JB, you said it better than I ever could. Thank you.
Zues, all of those are good questions. Again, I know I cannot change him and it has to be HIM who wants to change, and do things. That hasn't happened in 12 years, and not in the nearly 1 year since the little bombs started (OW). I don't have an answer. I have NOT given an ultimatum, though I did ask that it stop.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
