LBH w/ a WXW after the D - now what

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Thanks again everyone.

I wish I would have said "really?" and just left. Right now I'm having a hard time. I want her to know there is a path back to us but I feel if I tell her so she'll just take advantage of me again.
My thoughts were around sending a text that said something like. "Happy new year. I want you to start this year hearing, knowing and believing I love you. I don't know what God has planned for us but I do know it's going to be great. I don't know what it's going to look like or what He has in store but it's going to be better than we imagine."

Then....I catch myself. She wouldn't appreciate something soft and sincere. In order for her to come back to this marriage she is going to have to spend time and energy showing me she wants it. Winning me back.