If I followed my beliefs, I would have the divorce papers ready to go. Because husbands behavior is not acceptable to my belief system. My feelings (which are all over the place ) for my husband make it difficult to follow my beliefs. I do know that I can't trust my feelings so I'm not really doing anything right now other then venting on these boards
Unless I am misunderstanding the definitions.
Julie, yes! This is exactly how I feel yet haven't been able to express. This is why I DB, because if I didn't have a "plan" and a strategy I would have filed already and that isn't what I want.
But think about it, by NOT following your feelings you actually ARE following your beliefs. You are not the one walking away, he is. He is not following your beliefs, but you are sticking by yours. You are honoring your commitment, your vows, and your belief of sticking by your spouse when things are rough. You are a shining example of your beliefs. So, go ahead, and trust yourself. Your feelings, maybe they can mislead you but as you said they are all over the place, trust your plan, trust your beliefs, be calm and secure in that you know what you stand for.
