Thank you all. I'm glad to see that I am not so unique in my crazy.
W texted earlier about kid swap. Plan was for me to take them to Sunday school, 45 minutes away, and then my time is over. W asked if I wanted to bring them back to her. I declined, because I have tentative plans, and that would interfere. Plus, it would save her 80 miles, and an hour and a half drive. Plus, I don't have to interact with her at all tomorrow this way. I didn't tell her any of this however, I just said that you can get them from church.
I'm sure that threw her off, because until now, I would never turn down a chance to see her. I also normally find a way to accommodate her, even if it were an inconvenience.
Baby steps. Next one is pma while talking to her. I have been able to have fun when I'm at work (yes, for real) and with the kids and friends and ball practice. Just when I see her, I can now do the short conversation and needing to leave. My pma is never that great. That's next on my list.
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....