I can understand how hard it can be to see all the newcomers and think your not a success. Success is not always measured the same. D or R, success or failure could be either way and all the real newcomer wants is some type of reassurance they will get their S back, which is the wrong way to view things. A healthy does of the reality of all our situations isnt a bad thing.

I just get overwhelmed to see the floods of new names that appear and replace the sitches that I was trying to keep up with. Then once I get adjusted to the new set of names and find a few to follow they drop off some and a new flood replaces it. Knowing the pain they're all experiencing is heartbreaking and it never seems to stop. It also pulls me back to my own feelings around BD.

I see many that stick around end up moving to the other sections of the forums and I can see why.

Think it's great you changed the house to suit what you needed. That was one reason I decided to move out. I didn't have anything financially invested into our townhouse as it was a rental and I knew those memories would keeping bringing up the same old emotions. Make it your own, it has nothing to do with that relationship anymore.

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be