Mozza's own success story

[Mozza]

I'm guessing that most people will find their own way out of the misery of S. I trust that almost everyone here is searching for it. But I thought I'd share briefly what I consider to be the top factors in taking me to this good place where I am now.

1. DBing | Looking back, I'm amazed at how much of my behaviour has been informed by DB. The restraint I showed with WW, the focus on getting better and busy, etc. If ever you doubt that DB is the path back into your M, remember that it's your best path out of this hell anyway.

2. Reading about relationships | The books (5 love languages, Models, NMMNG, DR obviously....) have given me a new perspective on relationships and me. Some of their teachings are part of my core now. I wish I knew lot of this earlier.

3. Therapy | Related to #2. I've been going for 15 months and I will continue. It informs my vision of life and myself. I'm surprised at how much it comes up in conversations and private thoughts.

4. Dating | It has put in perspective the absence of WW and even my R with her. It has helped me to see that I don't "need" her, even though I wanted her for a long time. It has shown me options and certainly given me some exciting GAL.

5. Cutting off WW | When I look at sitches with stay-in separations or with constant contacts, I see how difficult it is. Not seeing or talking much to WW has made the memories of her, of us, recede gradually. There's less to miss, less material to fret over ("why did she do that? what did she mean? what should I say?")