Ancaire, have you explained to S it was just a moment of anger at what's happening and had nothing to do with him or his siblings. I know you said you tried to repair it and I can see where they would take that personally. Being honest with them about what happened can't hurt and making sure they underatand it has nothing to do with him and you were just venting but you see how it could make them hurt.
Dday, I've had all the same dreams. In the hospital about to go through delivery with W, ML, fooling around, painful ones where she was talking/holding hands with other men. I've even had one where I was having an A and still living with W and she was the LBS. Walking around the house holding hands with an OW and W acting as if. This was during the time I was trying to empathize with W and how she got sucked into OM. Dream can help us with our waking lives more than we realize.
They do have many different meanings and even if W is in one, it doesn't necessarily mean its about her or you aren't detached. Many times the people we see in the dreams are less important than what's happening in them. It could be a longing for the intimacy and family that you're not getting from your awake life, something we all have.
The last couple months I've had a recurring theme in mine where I'm running away from someone or stabbing people that are attaching me. Looking up those meanings show I'm fearful of being betrayed and there's some issue I'm avoiding while awake.
The mind has a tendency to show us through dreams aspects of our waking lives that might need to be looked into. Sometimes anyway, other times the dream is just a random dream. I have had many in the past that, through analyzing them have helped me in one way or another dealing with my life.
Another point to make it we usually have multiple dream every night but rarely remember any. The ones with W may have been there before but you remember more so now because of the pain and your sitch.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
