I am so sorry things are so difficult right now. I can relate to your wounds.
Love Zues's words for you. He has giving you good advice. Rain, the main thing is for you to listen to what he is saying and try to get the picture within yourself.
He is acting like a complete Jerk and needs to grow up some. In the mean time you also need to understand that your jealousy mode is ruining your days and your life.
By what I read, I also think that you give OW way too much credit and brain space. Let that part go for your own good.
I know it is hard, but you may have a long way ahead of you before he start changing and come your direction. It's time for you to continue your journey to improve yourself and eventually he will see it.
It's not going to be an easy task at all, but if you take one day at a time, you can get there. The fact that you mention this OW all the time, you also remind him af her all the time.
And please, do not listen to whatever she has to say. You know this is not a good person with good morals, so let that go, off the phone.
If you have time, please read TO326 thread, she had some hell for awhile and made the changes she needed to bring her H back home.
Like Zues said, do some soul search and start making the changes you need on yourself. Stop the obsession.
