Stay away from the "why". Every time I go there I start blaming myself and end up feeling like sh!t.
Yesterday was a pretty good day for me. Today I feel gloomy again. We have plans to spend time together the three of us and I know it'll be so weird not being able to hold his hand or snuggle up to him. And every time his phone pings I'll wonder if it's a text from OW. I also don't know if he just invited me along out of pity. Maybe I shouldn't have accepted?
Something my therapist reminds me that really helps, is that I wouldn't want H back the way he is right now. He's a mess, he's not the man fell in love with. Until that man comes back I'll be chasing shadows.
I just read the "no dating until a year after D" that Zues posted about. In my situation both H and ow are coming out of long term relationship and between them they have several kids. And live in different states. Almost feel inclined to wish them good luck. Almost.
Ancaire, you are still in the process so give you time. You will drop the rope when you are ready. I think we all need to go through those emotions and each time we deal with them it brings us towards dropping that rope we so desperately want.
Every thing will come in due time. Please keep faith.
The same goes for you Gmum. I'm with you all the way :-)
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
