There is nothing wrong in hoping. Just have no expectations until you have full commitment from H.
Yes, that is the hard bit, trying to hope without expectations. H does an excellent job of knocking both hope and expectations out of me anyway so it's all good .
Feeling upset/angry today. After H's five minute visits the last two days and the 'let's go out for breakfast' on Wednesday morning for an hour you would think he would be desperate to see his kids and spend some quality time with them on his weekend off wouldn't you? He only gets one weekend off in 9 where he is actually off during the day and night. This weekend is one of those weekends. He text at lunchtime to say that he is just sorting his food shopping, did I need the car and he'll be round to see the kids later if it's OK. I text back that I don't need the car and asked what time he'd be round. His reply was, "Teatime ish but if you're not in it's fine." What?!?! It's fine if you don't see your kids again today?! S is getting increasingly upset and angry about Dad just popping in for five minutes and doing nothing with them. I've seen other people post this and I'm starting to feel it myself. How can I contemplate R with a person who is prepared to do that to his kids? No doubt he will be spending the afternoon drinking with FIL again. I'm starting to hate him for abandoning the kids.
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