I agree it's not unreasonable at all. I told myself early on when I accepted D could happen I would need to wait something like that after it was final. I know jumping into a new R would be unhealthy for me and I don't see how I would be ready. I question how someone could realistically move on from a M that might be 10+ years in just a couple months. It just feels like it's more looking for the pain to be gone than being fully ready, but to each their own.

I've been separated a year now, I have no knowledge of when W plans to file, if ever, and D is at least a 6 month process in my state. I think about the sitches that go on separated for several years and/or the WAS is content with just being separated. I've heard of one separation that lasted 9 or 10 years. I do now wonder, depending on how long this goes on for, if I would be ready before the D is final.

It makes me wonder what someone keeping to this rule, who doesn't believe in D and refuses to file, would do if their S was content with being separated forever.


Last edited by Fogg; 01/02/16 06:10 AM.
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