I learned something else about myself through today's pain. I am afraid to detach from my wife because I am afraid that if I do, I will no longer love her. Does that mean anything?
Yep, I have the same feeling. For me, I think theres some co-dependency feelings mixed in also. I fear Ill detach so much Ill realize I don't want her in my life after whats happened this last year. Then if she does want the M to work out ill be the WAS. So I'm protecting her from her own future BD when I tell her ILYBNINLWY. All crazy talk though.....I think.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
