How do you deal with the period of time after the bomb drop? My wife told me that she doesn't love me anymore, around 4 weeks ago, but I've heard nothing since and her actions haven't changed compared to before she told me. We still eat meals as a family. We work well with the kids. The kids don't know anything is even going on. I've been GAL-ing but I'm having a hard time with doing a lot of 180s. I'm just not sure where she stands so I'm not sure how hard to push the DBing. I haven't been asking her anything regarding her daily activities, plans, our R or anything personal, but I so badly want to know where she stands at this point and what her plans are.
Up to this point we've been planning a move to Colorado (we are in CA currently) in March/April 2016 timeframe. I'm opening an office there. Or at least that's the plan. She's the one that really wants to move. But recently I know that she has submitted a few applications for jobs in SoCal. I knew she was looking for jobs before and when I asked her why she was doing that, she said it's in case I decide not to move and she ends up "stuck" here. But I have a feeling that she has ulterior motives. I just don't want to ask her what those are because I think it would sabotage my GAL attempts. But I really need to know since I have been planning all along on making this move and need to recalibrate by efforts if in fact, she is planning on staying her in SoCal.
This is the worst possible time for all of this to be happening. 2 small kids, I'm graduating with my doctorate in April, supposed to be moving to a new location, away from my immediate family, opening a new office in an unfamiliar place.... I'm in a time crunch and am not sure what to do. She knows that I want to stay here, and if she is planning to leave, I'll need my family around for support and to help me with the kids while I try to open my office.
