Looking forward to the new year

[JulieH]

Zues, you said "feelings aren't my compass. I follow my beliefs"

My beliefs have always been that you don't walk away from a spouse unless their was abuse or infidelity and you never walk away from a child. This is unheard of in my family. There are no divorces in the immediate and extended family (I do. Not have a small family) There was never any known occurrences of infidelity. When a couple of boyfriends have been known to cheat the whole family wants to kill them (and they are not even married) . It is taboo and something we see on television. I'm not saying my family does not have plenty of dysfunctions but this is just something that has not occurred. As you can imagine, my husband was one time loved and right now is despised by everyone.

If I followed my beliefs, I would have the divorce papers ready to go. Because husbands behavior is not acceptable to my belief system. My feelings (which are all over the place ) for my husband make it difficult to follow my beliefs. I do know that I can't trust my feelings so I'm not really doing anything right now other then venting on these boards

Unless I am misunderstanding the definitions.