Updated/still thinking about next steps

[Zues126]

By the way, I am not telling you the research you've done is wrong...only asking you to remain extremely open minded, sensitive, and cautious. You are touching on things that are so profoundly central to the core of your H that if you go bulldozing around he will erupt like a bull in a china shop. Proceed with EXTREME caution with any type of conversation. If you come in thinking you know him, understand the issues, whatever, it could really make him feel misunderstood, criticized, rejected, judged, condemned, abandoned, diminished, all at once. I don't think that's what you want.

Have you asked him to look up articles that sum up HIS point of view and told him you'd love to listen more to how he views his porn use, in a non-judgmental way?

Sorry I am not trying to critique too much, just a general caution before you have any talks with him on this topic.

By the way, vets, where the heck are you? Why is it just me and JB? This woman has a husband that still lives with her and shows signs of wanting a healthy marriage. Can someone catch up and give some guidance here?