Updated/still thinking about next steps

[Zues126]

I will be direct and tell you I don't trust the research you're doing on how porn affects men. There are many, many conflicting opinions on this topic. Different people have different axes to grind. It's far, far, far, far too easy to have your OWN opinions based on how YOU FEEL, then to simply skim through various articles until you find some that validate your feelings and support the point of view you already had going in.

What are you referring to when you say it might come across as an ultimatum? Are you thinking of telling him that the M can't be healed without him quitting porn and that you're not prepared to live in an M with him if he continues to use it? I'm just trying to keep up with what you're saying. This was pretty vague.