Updated/still thinking about next steps

[kyrie]

Yes, I appreciate what you're saying here. We talked again today...and it veered in this direction, and I nearly asked him directly about. I think I'm ready to tonight. It may come across like an ultimatum. I dunno if that's what would be the last straw or the destruction that comes before a break through...
Thoughts?
I've done a lot of reading on how porn affects men - I get it. I've always been available, attractive (which frightens him a bit), etc. But some of that empathy has been missing since his affair. I hurt too much and it comes out as hostility and disrespect. I'm working on that part...he says I'm not. Ugh.