Happy new year e! Glad you went to the party and brought the new year in with your s! My h does the exact same thing, also blames spoiling, I do wonder if this has something to do with jealousy?
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Maybe. My H just incited a 30 minute meltdown because he didn't want to give my S a hand out of the bathtub. He kept telling him to get out and my S kept saying he needed help. Finally my H says if I help you out I'm not reading bed time stories.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
They're unbelievable at times aren't they. This kind of thing hurts more when my h does similar, than when he does something directly to me. However the positive I try to see when I look at this, and this is me trying to find the positive in an awful situation is that it just shows how this isn't personal to us- if they can be like this towards an innocent young child. Your h, probably like mine, will probably disappear in a mood for a while. And again, just guessing and I know we shouldn't be mind reading, is that they feel bad for the way that they've been and their behaviour.
All the more important to me, and I know I don't need to tell you this, is why it's important for us to be the sane, steady reliable one- if not for anyone else but our children. They are truly truly the innocent party in this.
Sorry you had to deal with this E, but you're doing fab. Huge New Years hugs to you my love!
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Thank you, Cherry. He did indeed take off after our S went to bed and is out today as well. Said he'll see me tomorrow. And you are right, I am the stable one for my boy.
It is really hard to not get involved though when it's happening. I haven't yet though which I think is good. Would just make it worse for all involved.
Happy New Year to you my friend, and I wish you a peaceful, happy 2016.
***Hugs***
E
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
Sorry your H is taking things out on S andd that you have to break the news to him today. Just wanted to say Happy New Year. I am positive that 2016 will bring better times for you and your S. Hold strong!!
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
Zephyr, Cherry, PP, and BT, thank you for the positive thoughts and hugs. It went as well as I expected it to go. But the first hard step is over and we'll just keep plugging on and reminding him that he is loved and okay.
Feeling bruised tonight, but not maudlin.
E
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
