Bttrfly, big hugs back and thank you. Maybe I should dust off my DR book soon. Was really weird, when I went to read some of my Power of Now book, I was on the chapter of releasing negative emotions. It was using and releasing negative emotions followed by acts of compassion. Could not have been more appropriate!
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
Hi Mleigh - jumping in to lend support. I wish I were close enough to run over there with a nice bottle of wine for a chat.
As we are told, this time of year is really tough. It is so hard when all goes well and yet they just slink back to their dumpy worlds.
I just want you to know I am sending you hugs and positive thoughts.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
I do that as well in the shower. Not just washing off the blues but the negative energy as well. Sort of meditation in a way.
Also you said it best.. enjoy your time with things you enjoy.. it makes those blues go away even faster and eventually stay away.
continued strength to you.
Irish
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
May the next year bring you and your family happiness, contentment and fun times.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Happy New Year Mleigh! I hope you had a nice holiday.
I am wishing you the very best in 2016.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
I have to say, I had the best New Years Eve I have had in years
I had to work, so I brought S and dog with me for H to pick up as he took the day off work to be with S. H picked them up from my work. He had wanted dog for the day, but the plan was for me to have her back for the night.
I worked all day, we had our most productive month this year! Big cheers to us, we have worked hard this month. At about 3, the phones were turned off, we got some sangria, and had some music on while we finished up. It was really fun! My girlfriend even stopped by to visit. She invited me to a party, but I honestly had no desire to get dolled up and go out. All I had on my mind was a glass of wine, sweats and a movie!
Came home about 5 and did just that. I watched Chef on Netflix. It was a really good movie. I was curious if H would invite me to join him and S, knowing it was my first NYE away from S. About 6:30 he TM that he was working on his mom's car and that he could bring dog home in a little while unless I wanted to pick her up. I replied asking if S wanted her with him, and knowing he would, told him it was fine for her to stay there. H replied thank you, that he knows I like her with me.
I checked on my FB and replied to a friend's post that he was spending a quiet night at home. I told him I was too and having a nice time of it. He is an old friend, and an old girlfriends XH, so a friend but off limits to any more. He sent me a private message on how my wine and movie were and asked how things were with H. I had run into him at Target a couple of months ago and had filled him in. We talked back and forth a bit, but I got across that I am standing for my M. He told me H is a fool, that I am a sweet person who will be swooped up in no time, and told me to let him know if I want to have lunch or a drink sometime. Was nice to hear, not going to lie!
I was asleep by 10 and woken by all the fireworks in town at midnight. I really did have a great night alone, I was pleasantly surprised. No pity pot this time Job!
Woke up and cleaned up all the Christmas decorations. I even dragged my tree to the curb! I TM H about noon and wished him a HNY and best wishes for 2016, and let him know I would be by shortly to pick up S and dog. Having a mellow night with S, I have him this weekend. Feeling in very good spirits
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
Hi Mleigh - so glad you had such a nice NYE!! Sounds like a perfectly relaxing night.
Why did you have wine and not cowboy coffee?!? Ha ha!!
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
