]I agree with the others; it does seem to be a good sign that he is still thinking of you. He is probably very undecided on his feelings. You are doing very well, better than I am, at staying aloof and detached,even though you are sharing your pain and thoughts with us. You can do this! He seems to be really rather mixed up, but missing you?
My heart tells me that he is just mixed up and missing me but my head tells me it is all just his guilt Ciluzen. He has always been someone who likes to come off as looking squeaky clean and a great guy and he must know that what he is doing right now portrays neither of those attributes! The last R talk we had he said he knows he is doing the right thing because he hasn't missed me at all. Not one little bit. He doesn't miss a single thing about me he says. My Mum says I should reply with, "I'm not missing you either because I see you every day!" Tempting but not really consistent with DBing.
Originally Posted By: ciluzen
I think my H is more leaning out, and him having the support of long time friends will make DB almost ineffective. Your H, on the other hand, seems to be leaning in. Keep Doing what you are doing, it seems to be having an effect.
It does seem like your H has a lot of support unfortunately. I think my H seems to be leaning in more because of the age of our children compared to yours though. I'm trying really hard to not see positive signs even though I do (shhh, don't tell anyone lol!)
