Hi LiM. There's lots of good advice around here. I'm sorry this is happening to you right now. Don't worry that you've made mistakes. We all have. Just keep reading the books and these posts. And get a DB coach if you can afford it.
And when you get discouraged, just keep reading, and breathe. And don't be hard on yourself.
Best advice I've received is this: "Less is more." If you don't know what to say, just listen. If it hurts too much to listen, then take a break and quietly walk away. Don't lose it because that's what she's expecting.


11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat