WW is onboard with trying to save the M

[JGuy]

Thank you all for chiming in. I have spent the past day practicing detachment, but holding off a very strong desire to confront her. I am reflecting more on everything today. As I mentioned in my last post, she is back to contacting the OM again and is lying about it again. Last night, I had a quick, 30 second conversation with her where I kindly reminded her that I really need to know if she decides to contact the OM again, since it is a significant factor for me in what I'm comfortable with moving forward. She reassured me that she will tell me if she decides to. She added that she has been thinking about it - which is a blatant lie as I know she has already been contacting him.

This continued dishonesty and betrayal has thoroughly pushed me across the line and I no longer have any interest in giving her more chances. She has crossed a boundary that I set very clearly, which is that I won't live with her in the same house if she chooses to continue staying in touch with him. I must now follow through with those consequences. I am forcing myself to hold off for a day or two, partly to let the feelings settle and contemplate exactly how I want to do this. But also to give her a chance to be honest on her own and see if she decides to tell me.