That's how it's done: One day at a time. And sometimes one hour at a time.
As the LBSs we're doing all the work to improve ourselves. We're not rushing into new relationships that we are ill equipped to handle, we're working to become the best version of ourselves and making sure we're ready for a healthy mature relationship wether that be with our current spouses or someone we have yet to meet.
One day I will look back at DB and be grateful that it happened, cause it has given me an opportunity to be happy. I sure wasn't before, but now I have the skills and tools to get there.